October 10, 2013
I'm not usually prone to quoting the Bible, but I found this one in
regards to hope that I thought was fitting.
deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is
a tree of life.
Then, on the flip side of that coin, I
found this Nietzsche quote that, although dark, may better summarize the
year and a half Arnold spent incarcerated in Massachusetts, and the two
and a half years that he has lived away from his daughter, and his wife.
is the worst of evils, for it prolongs the torment of man.
For so long Arnold's heart, and Sharon's heart,
grew sicker and
sicker, and their one desire -- such a simple desire really -- was never realized. To add insult to that injury, people (usually strangers)
have regularly remarked that they don't deserve that life together. It's
usually in the form of online commentary and it starts with a "Sorry,
but". Whatever follows the "but" invariably demonstrates that the
commentator is anything but sorry.
A lot of Facebook friends and family have been wonderfully supportive,
signed the petition, and shared the link. We are tremendously grateful for
them. And, then, there are a lot of
others that just don't care. I understand it's human nature - I imagine
they would suddenly care a great deal if this happened to someone in their
family, someone that they loved and cared about. There are a whole lot of
causes out there, we can't get all worked up about all of them.
Then there are the terrible, mean-spirited, hateful hypocrites. There
are people I know for a fact have committed drug crimes of their own, and
simply benefited from not getting caught. I don't know how they don't gag
on their own hypocrisy when they say this US resident of 53 years has lost
his right to be here for the mistakes he has made, and paid his debt
A lot of people assume he did something much, much worse than we are
telling them, so they support his deportation on the grounds that there
must be a really good reason. They've had it so engrained in their brain
that Deportation = Good for America that they have to believe it's for the
And, of course, there are plenty of less subtle racists who have wondered
out loud to me why they're deporting Arnold, an Italian, when we still
have all these Mexicans. Yes, really. And, yes, they are serious.
Back to Hope. It's been almost a year
that Arnold's been in Italy. Sharon is trying to figure out the best
option for them to all be back together again. England perhaps? At least
she can speak the language.
Then, something sort of incredible happened. A team of students at Yale
Law School has decided to take on Arnold's case. They are going to try and get him
From what I've heard, Yale's a petty good
When we first heard this news, we tried to remain cautiously optimistic and not get our hopes up, but... we've
gone and gotten ahead of ourselves. Hope is funny like that, once it takes
hold it's not really in the carrier's ability to contain it. Hope can burn
us again and again, but we'll fall again, because the alternative is just
too bleak. I don't want to live in Nietzsche's world.
Sharon has re-opened the petition, tweaked a little bit. Rather
than "stop the deportation", we're now looking to "bring
him home". If you haven't already, please go over to change.org and
This family deserves this. They just want to be together, on the same
continent with the rest of their family. That's it.