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Dear Mr. President

October 10, 2013

I'm not usually prone to quoting the Bible, but I found this one in regards to hope that I thought was fitting. 

"Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life."
Proverbs 13:12

Then, on the flip side of that coin, I found this Nietzsche quote. Although dark, this one may actually better summarize the year and a half Arnold spent incarcerated in Massachusetts, and the two and a half years that he has lived away from his daughter and wife; his mother and father; his siblings, niece and nephews. His time in exile, separated from everything he has ever known and cared about.

Hope is the worst of evils, for it prolongs the torment of man.
Friedrich Nietzsche

For so long Arnold's heart, and Sharon's heart, has grown sicker and sicker, and their one desire -- such a simple desire really -- has not been realized. To add insult to that injury, people (usually strangers) have regularly remarked that they don't deserve that life together. It's usually in the form of online commentary and it starts with a "Sorry, but". Whatever follows the "but" invariably demonstrates that the commentator is anything but sorry.

A lot of Facebook friends and family have been wonderfully supportive, signed the petition, and shared the link. We are tremendously grateful for them. And, then, there are a lot of others that just don't care. I understand it's human nature - I imagine they would suddenly care a great deal if this happened to someone in their family, someone that they loved and cared about. There are a whole lot of causes out there, we can't get all worked up about all of them.

Then there are the terrible, mean-spirited, hateful hypocrites. There are people I know for a fact have committed drug crimes of their own, and simply benefited from not getting caught. I don't know how they don't gag on their own hypocrisy when they say this US resident of 53 years has lost his right to be here for the mistakes he has made, and paid his debt for. 

A lot of people assume he did something much, much worse than we are telling them, so they support his deportation on the grounds that there must be a really good reason. They've had it so engrained in their brain that Deportation = Good for America that they have to believe it's for the best.

And, of course, there are plenty of less subtle racists who have wondered out loud to me why they're deporting Arnold, an Italian, when we still have all these Mexicans. Yes, really. And, yes, they are serious.


Back to Hope. It's been almost a year that Arnold's been in Italy. Sharon is trying to figure out the best option for them to all be back together again. England perhaps? At least she can speak the language.

Then, something sort of incredible happened. A team of students at Yale Law School has decided to take on Arnold's case. They are going to try and get him home.

When we first heard this news, we tried to remain cautiously optimistic and not get our hopes up, but... we've gone and gotten ahead of ourselves. Hope is funny like that, once it takes hold it's not really in the carrier's ability to contain it. Hope can burn us again and again, but we'll fall again, because the alternative is just too bleak. I don't want to live in Nietzsche's world.

Sharon has re-opened the petition, tweaked a little bit. Rather than "stop the deportation", we're now looking to "bring him home". If you haven't already, please go over to change.org and sign it.

The Petition

This family deserves this. They just want to be together, on the same continent with the rest of their family. That's it.



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  Italy: April 2013 (Reunited after two years fighting Arnold's deportation - A year and a half locked up.)