Background
as told by Amy Blair,
sister-in-law of Arnold
My sister's husband, Arnold Giammarco, (aka "Daddy" to my 2
1/2 year old niece) [update 11/6/11 - she'll be 3
next week] has been locked up since May 14,
2011. It was a Saturday night and he was standing on his front porch, phone in hand,
talking to his sister. Armed men identifying themselves as Homeland
Security showed up and ordered him to drop the phone and lie down on
his stomach.
Arnold has had legal and personal troubles in the past, but he thought
those were all behind him. The agents' came as a shock to him.
It was perhaps an even bigger shock to his wife of 10 months, and
partner of 10 years, my sister Sharon. Sharon and daughter Blair were
over my house that night when my phone rang. I didn't answer it
because the number was blocked.
The voice on the message was Arnold's, and he was saying that Immigration
had come and picked him up. At first, naturally, I assumed he was
messing with me. It couldn't be real. But, it was, actually, very real -
and the US Government was actually messing with my entire family.
Once we realized it was actually happening, we assumed there to be a
paperwork mix-up. Some sort of mistake. Sharon figured she'd be able to
go pick him up that evening, once this all got straightened out.
Next we
found out he'd been rightly picked up, and he'd be locked up until he appeared before a judge on
Monday.
He's been jailed for 3 and a half months and counting. [going
on 6]
Arnold was born on January 18, 1956 in
L'Aquila,
Italy. He was four-years-old when he arrived in the United States. With
the exception of those first four years, Arnold has lived his entire
life in the United States. He is a legal, permanent resident of the U.S.
Arnold served in the United States Army from 7/25/1976 until 7/29/1979,
and in the National Guard until
1/26/1983. (records 1, 2)
He married in 1988 and was divorced in 1993. After his divorce, he ended
up falling on hard times. Unfortunately, his
path eventually led him to some pretty severe substance abuse. The abuse
became worse and worse until he found himself embroiled in a full fledge
drug addiction.
Everyone always wants to know "what'd he do?" Not just with
Arnold, but in any case that involves someone asking you to side with a
criminal. Before someone is going to offer the time and energy of their
indignation, they need to know if the punishment may be warranted.
Arnold has convictions for three different types of crimes on his
record. Two Simple Possessions of Narcotics (just enough for personal
use), Three Failures to Appear, and Larceny on a number of occasions, almost every time in the
6th degree. He has one 5th degree and one 4th degree larceny conviction.
They are all misdemeanors and mostly come from small-time shoplifting
arrests (6th degree means under $250.)
When his addiction was at its worst, he was literally on the street, and
it is to his great shame now that he did the things he did to support
his habit. His last arrest was on January 23, 2007. He has since become
entirely clean and sober, and
subsequently, wouldn't dream of stealing anything from anybody.
Unfortunately, his criminal record is going to follow him wherever he goes
for the rest of his life.
Those charges are no doubt a large part of the reason that he set his employment
sights so low when he was released from jail in
2008. I think he preferred the night job at a fast food restaurant to
"real interviews" and the humiliation of explaining to
potential employers that he spent the last few years of his life as a
homeless drug addict and a petty thief. That is not who Arnold was for
the first 50 years of his life, and it is not who Arnold will be for his
remaining years.
There has been one question that has been nagging at all of us since this nightmare
began - - WHY NOW?
Arnold was
on parole and probation for years.
There was a very long period of time that the
United States Court System allowed him - encouraged him - required him -
to get his life together and start flying right.
They released him from jail and allowed him to
go out and create a whole lot worth
losing. They set him free and told him to go build a life. He repaired
and rebuilt long-ago damaged family ties. He got married and a had a daughter. He even paid a visit to the immigration
building after he lost his green card. They gave him a new one. He
got a new driver's license too. No one even hinted that there might be a
problem with his resident status. (Why didn't he ever become
a citizen? 11/6/11)
Even if by some stretch of the imagination, you deemed Arnold's past of
theft and drug use to be worthy of deportation, you cannot argue
that my niece has done anything to deserve losing her father. The last
three and a half months have been unnecessarily trying for her.
Since Arnold became a father, he has not committed a crime. (Sharon
can attest, he can't speed in the Geo.) He has gone to work every day
and provided for his family. He has been a consistent, solid, dependable
family man. In spite of that, he still ended up behind bars. He has committed
no new crime, there is nothing he is charged with. He has already been
incarcerated for more than 3 months and he was just given a
hearing
date of October 25th. Over five months (minimum) right off the bat that he will be
locked up, missing out on his daughter, and my sister will have to
continue to field questions about when Daddy's coming home. [Hearing
pushed back until November 22. Still incarcerated.]
From the time Arnold found out he was going to be a father, he has
devoted himself to that role. He worked, and he saved, and he stayed
clean and sober. He walked three miles to work, and he never missed a
day. He wrote Sharon daily letters during her incarceration. He
rented a tiny apartment and saved every spare penny he made for his
family.
His wife is my baby sister, and as such, I have always been one of
Arnold's toughest critics. At first I was critical of the age
difference, and then I disapproved of the lives they were
living, and I made no secret of that. My relationship with Arnold goes back a
way and has always been outwardly strained. When Sharon contacted me in
2008 that she was pregnant with his child and incarcerated, I was
skeptical, to say the least.
As he and Sharon completed court requirements, saved money, and prepared
for their daughter's arrival, he responded to my skepticism with an
understated and reassuring patience that I hadn't been expecting.
There were times I could see my sister's anxiousness as she wanted to
hurry up and fast forward to the part where there would be no lingering
discomfort and distrust from years of drug abuse and criminal records - Arnold would bring her back to Zen-like reality with a
simple reminder that they just had to do it. There were no more
stories. No lies, or regrets, or missed opportunities. She didn't need
to convince anyone she was going to do the right thing. She just
had to do the right thing. Eventually, people would stop being surprised.
He showed her all of that by example.
Everything I thought I knew about Arnold changed the day Blair Katie
Angel Giammarco was born. Sharon was incarcerated when Blair was born,
so none of us could be in the room with her. The nurse had done Arnold a favor and
snuck him some Polaroid shots of Sharon and his new daughter. When I
arrived at the hospital, I saw him in a waiting room, through a glass
window. He didn't know anyone was watching. He had his glasses perched
up on his forehead like he does, and he was staring at these Polaroids
with pride like I have never seen. I was witnessing a man of 53 years literally find a meaning in his life.
I'm a card-carrying atheist, but I believe a true miracle happened to my
sister in 2008, and I believe it started with the one that happened for
Arnold in 2007. Arnold was an instrumental factor in my sister's
recovery, and frankly, it's another miracle that Uncle Sam
didn't drive her to relapse when he took away her main support. While I am pleased to
find out that she is capable of doing it on her own, what
a rough way for her to have to learn.
This has gone on far too long. A family is torn apart, and taxpayer resources are being wasted. There
is no justice being served here.
Bring Arnold Home.
First Anniversary - July 4, 2011
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